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A Place for You: Mental Health

We've all been there before. You have guests coming over, and you go into hyperdrive, trying to make sure everything has a place and everything is in its place. You dust, sweep, vacuum, mop, wash, and organize. Frequently, you find yourself tired and burnt out before your company even arrives. Sometimes, you may not have time to clean your entire house, so you clean literally everywhere else but your bedroom. The place you lay your head, sleep, and come to cozy up in gets thrown to the back burner for the sake of your guests.

As a mom in postpartum, it’s easy to try not to focus on our own wants and needs and concern ourselves with other things. Some people can attribute it to being a natural motherly characteristic, but ignoring your own needs should never be seen as “the norm,” especially in such a tender time. It also reminds me of a verse in the Bible, John 14:2b, when Jesus tells the disciples, “I go to prepare a place for you.” This is said during a time of trouble and concern because the disciples learn Jesus will be leaving them soon. Jesus knew it was important to have a place just for you to be because it provides peace.

In reference to postpartum, think of your well-being and mental headspace as your prepared place. How is it? Is it cluttered because you’re tending to others? Do you even have a place to sit? Loving and caring for others is truly a blessing, but leave some space just for yourself. When all is said and done, your family will thank you for it.

I know firsthand it is easier said than done because as a mom, you sometimes feel like you finish with one thing just to start another. The day can feel like a list of chores. Do your best to check in with yourself throughout the day. When I actually started doing this, I was amazed at the awful things I was subconsciously telling myself throughout the day. This type of mental check-in is called “mindfulness” and is the first step to counteracting negative thought processes. I will go into more detail in a subsequent post on how to combat these thoughts, but my first tip after acknowledging these thoughts is replacing them with positive ones. I’ve failed so many times trying to just stop my negative thoughts. It’s like trying to stop a car going 100 mph with just the sheer force of will. You need a different route. Remember to be kind to yourself through all of this. We are all learning every day, no matter your age.


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